Monday, November 12, 2012

The Peduzzi Family ~ 31 Families of HOPE: Day 12


Meet the Peduzzi Family!: Ryan & Melissa Peduzzi and Hudson




Melissa, what first tugged on your heart about the Fatherless?

My heart for adoption began in Romania, before we were even engaged. I spent a summer working in the orphanages, and my heart was broken and burdened for each and every child there.  More than this, my heart was broken for all children who are never given the chance to experience the love of a mother and father in a stable home; for all children who are beyond any hunger we have ever felt and are not guaranteed another meal; for all children who long to hear about the love of Christ, but have no one to tell them.  God spoke to me here, and put His plan in my heart. In His timing, and in His way, I would be a mother to children such as these.  Through my experiences and stories, as well as his own journeys, God created a very similar heart in Ryan concerning adoption, and we both agreed that we wanted to be a loving home for a child who may not otherwise ever have that experience, and a beacon of light for Christ for a child who may not otherwise hear about Him.



Tell us one unique thing about your family/ministry.

God has called both my husband and I to the ministry full time, with my husband serving on staff as the Minister of Students.  I volunteer my time to serve as God would allow, and would not change a thing.  As a result, we budget very carefully, taking care to spend God's money wisely.  God has also undeniably called us both to adopt internationally, and share His redemptive story of adopting us into His family through the picture of our family.  We know that on our own, coming up with the finances for this would have been impossible, but we trust the One who has called us more than circumstances or our own efforts.  


What was one challenge either before, during or after your child(ren) came home?

Our process was anything but typical.  When our agency advised us to pursue an adoption from Russia, the one thing we remember the most from the conversation is the timeline.  We had been considering countries that had a 2-3 year wait, and Russia was a little less than a year.  It seemed so fast to us at the time.  But, as we began the process, and the wait continued, the days seemed to drag by.  We soon bypassed the one year estimate, due to court closures, vacations, paperwork issues, and every other roadblock that seemed possible.  As we did what was required of us at each stop along the way, the wait for our son seemed to stretch on forever.

Finally, we were able to travel to Russia to meet the little guy we had been praying for.  We had a great visit, and couldn't wait to bring him home.  When we went back 3 months later for our court date, our petition to adopt was denied, and no one could tell us why, except that it was a subjective decision.  This roadblock seemed impossible to get around, but we did everything in our power to fight for our son, and then finally stood back and watched the Lord move.  An intensely painful and long 5 months later, we were allowed to go back to court in Russia to fight for our son.  We prayed for God's will, and prepared the best we could.  On July 18, 2012, we stood before a Russian judge, pleaded with her to grant our petition to adopt, and watched God move mountains as she declared Hudson our son.  

We traveled back to Russia a fourth time in August to bring home our son.  He has been with us for two months now, and we cannot imagine life without him.  Parenting is challenging, but we know there is no greater calling than to raise this boy according to God's word.  We are so thankful for this privilege, and spend much time in prayer seeking His will and way as we point him to the Lord.  



If you could tell a family that was considering adoption one bit of advice what would it be?

First, once you are in the process, throw out all timelines.  Don't compare your journey to those who have gone before you, because it is unique to your family.  As frustrating as God's timing can be while you wait, it is truly perfect and brings the most glory to Him.  Just buckle up and hold on!  

Also, in regards to the wait, it is a beautiful blessing in disguise if you allow this time to draw you closer to the Lord.  I learned more about trust, faith, peace, and surrender through our journey to our son than I would have any other way. God used the time to refine me, teach me, and open my eyes and heart even more to Him.  Don't waste the blessing you're given!


What verse was especially encouraging to you during your adoption journey?

Exodus 14:14 - “The Lord will fight for you, you need only be still.”  

Through some of the darkest days of not knowing if our son would ever come home, I held on to this tightly.  Adoption is spiritual warfare- but thankfully, not a battle I fight on my own.  While I am a person who likes to get things done, I learned that God doesn't need my help, and my own vain efforts sometimes even make things more difficult.  By clinging to Him, trusting His time and ways, and stepping out of the way, I was able to watch Him work and fight for our son, and deliver him safely home!


Share one blessing that has happened because you said YES and followed God on this journey.

This journey has brought more blessings than I can count, even through the heartache, waiting, and tears.  One specific blessing that we CAN count was being able to complete this adoption without debt.  Looking back, each dollar was there exactly when we needed it.  As a single income family who has to budget very carefully, the costs associated with adoption were especially concerning.  But God had called us to step out in faith, knowing He would provide, and He was faithful to do so!  He truly owns the cattle on 1,000 hills- the fees for our adoption journey are but a drop in the bucket to Him.  


If you could share one other thing that is meaningful to you on the topic of adoption/orphan care, what would it be?

God LOVES the fatherless.  It is evidenced in His word time and time again.  I have also seen this love displayed as I have seen God move impossible looking mountains over and over again to make the Fatherless part of a family.  Because of His great love for the orphan, when you step out in faith as He has called you, you can trust that He has an even greater love for the Fatherless than you do.  While we waited to be united forever with my son, it brought me great comfort to remember that God loved Hudson even more than we did.   While the enemy will fight against you on your journey to bring your children home, God is greater.  God's love will prevail.  

Thank you, Peduzzi Family, for sharing HOPE with us here at Reaching Hearts!  Be sure to check out their family blog to read more about their adoption journey.  Also, Melissa and her friend Stephanie just launched a new ministry to help adoptive families financially.  Here is a bit of info about their passion in helping other adoptive families: 

My friend Stephanie Cole (from Day 2 of 31 Families of Hope) and I just stepped out in faith and launched MercyFound Ministries, to help adoptive families financially!  Not only do we offer fundraisers for adoptive families, but we give others with a heart for the Fatherless the opportunity to be matched with an adoptive family and host a fundraiser on their behalf!  We are so excited about the possibilities, and can't wait to see what God has in store!  To learn more, check out mercyfoundministries.blogspot.com or send us an email at mercyfoundministries@gmail.com.  We would love to work with you!



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Be sure not to miss the rest of the "31 Families of HOPE" series:

Day 2 ~ Cole Family
Day 3 ~ Weber Family
Day 4~ Heim Family
Day 5 ~ Kacirek Family
Day 6 ~ DeBlecourt Family
Day 7 ~ Sharp Family
Day 8 ~ McClard Family
Day 9 ~ Solgos Family
Day 10 ~ Linck Family
Day 11 ~ McClelland Family



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1 comment:

  1. LOVE this encouraging post! :)
    And that verse in Exodus...I'm sure I've skimmed over it before...but love rereading it from an adoptive-mama-context!

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