Sunday, August 26, 2012

Seasons of Mommy-ing

It's been a crazy summer here.  I realized earlier this year that my kids have all ganged up on me!  Not only do I close out another decade, but my kids are all in the midst of major milestones.  College son is getting married.  Middle son is a senior in high school.  Youngest son is a freshman and staring driver's ed.  Texan girl is packed full of perplexing learning/physical things.  And my Ethiopian baby of the family is starting Kindergarten.  SERIOUSLY.  It sort of all makes my head spin.  The crazy might feel a little high at times, but the JOY runs DEEP.  There are so many seasons of mommy-ing.  Sigh.

After all, isn't this what we work towards during all those years of early mommy-ing?  We pour so much love in, nurture through each transition and one day hope they will stand strong and branch out.

I have a unique relationship with each of my kiddos.  The oldest is no different.  Through his life, I became a momma.  During one of the most difficult times in all of my life, God chose to pour out the most incredible blessing on me.  The Enemy intended to bring destruction on my life - my Faithful Father instead brought LIFE.  It's taken me 20 years to comprehend the mercy and grace that God poured out.  I realize now, I'll never fully comprehend it.  Instead I just treasure it.

In about four months, we will lovingly let go of this one even more.  A new season will begin.  Realizing that he wasn't completely mine in the first place, makes that easier.  While I did everything I could to pour into his life, what is MORE important is that He has a Heavenly Father who is in complete control of his life.

I haven't done the mom-gig without flaw.  I messed up more times than I can count.  Perfection isn't what is needed in parenting.  Having eternal perspective is what is most necessary.  So if you're in the beginning stages of mommy-ing - take a deep breath.  You're gonna fall down at times.  You'll do things and say things that need to be followed up with "I'm sorry".  Don't strive for perfection - instead put your efforts in gently direction your littles ones to the ONE who will never let them down.  Maybe you're in the midst of the middle in the mommy-ing journey.  It can feel like a long and winding road.  Choose to lay aside anything that's keeping you in the way of what is most important right now.  You only get one chance at this.  You don't want to look back with regrets.  Maybe you're in a similar season to me.  Take some time to ENJOY and SAVOR all that God has done.  Let your big kids have the space to GROW and STRETCH.  Of course they'll fall down from time-to-time, but they have a Heavenly Father who is in control.  Let them feel your prayers, not your prying hands.  Let them know you love them - no matter what challenges might come.  Let them know you believe in them, especially during seasons of big decision making.

After we got home from dropping off our oldest back on the campus of MBI I took a second look at this picture.  I smiled seeing the words on his shirt.  My summer months have been spent pouring out words and drafts and edits for my first book project.  HOPE.  God has been teaching me so much about HOPE.  Our hope isn't in this world or our circumstances.  Our HOPE is in HIM and His WORD.

I am so thankful my son has his HOPE in the same.  The Father is with him, even when I can't be anymore.  And that is a comforting reality, friends.

Through every season - He is FAITHFUL.

Psalm 25:5  Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.

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