Tuesday, May 3, 2011

The Journey to College

While in the kitchen the other day, I looked up and saw my son coming down the drive. No, he hasn't gone off to join the Beverly Hillbilly family. But he IS headed somewhere. :) College. January of this last year brought the wonderful news that our oldest had been accept to Moody Bible Institute in Chicago, IL. Our boys have always known that they are responsible for their further education (whether that be college, trade school, career). They have each grown up with a strong work ethic and realized at a young age that everything wasn't going to be handed to them on a silver platter in real life.

Our son's acceptance to MBI was such a huge praise. Even as we rejoiced with him though, I must admit part of my heart sunk wondering how in the world he would raise the needed funds. He already takes care of most all of his personal expenses (vehicle, car insurance, phone, extras, etc.). That has just been a way of life for our family. I've been amazed as I watch everything play out.

I've seen a young man not be defeated. I've witnessed his determination to do whatever it takes to meet his goals. I can't help but think back to where so much of this was learned.

Here is the same young man ( top right, age 11) just after the long journey of helping to bring his first sister home. When we would grow weary of all the fund-raising and faith-climbing, it was often our oldest who would encourage us to press on. He would testify that His God is big enough to meet all of our needs.

Then two years later we began yet an even greater mountain-size journey to bring home this sweet girl. Again, our oldest never questioned or complained of what it would take. He and his brothers cared far more about children that didn't have a family than they did about their own desires.

Some people question things like college funds, vacation funds, entertainment funds when a family considers adoption. There are some that would go so far as thinking parents somehow "owe" their children a fully-funded college education. I'm so glad we didn't buy into that kind of theology. Our family would have missed out on such incredible blessings that $ cannot buy.

I have no doubt my oldest is ready to graduate and begin this next chapter of his life out in the "real world". We all have big adjustments ahead. I'm gonna have two very sad little girls when their big brother heads off for Chicago! :)

Who knows what else I'll see out my kitchen window this summer as he works his way to college. I hear he has a few more loads of scrap metal left to deliver. Each day it seems the mail man is bringing packages that he is buying/selling online. He has quite a business going. Throw in mowing jobs and working for our family's handyman business and I have no doubt he's gonna make it.

Perhaps you're a family who is considering adoption, but you are stuck in the mindset of "everything-parents-owe-their-kids-for-a-proper-upbringing" theology and you just don't see how you can do it financially. I challenge you to study God's theology about the fatherless. I promise you that your children will gain such richness as they learn about and live out what really matters in light of eternity.


  1. I have tears in my eyes. What a beautiful lesson you are teaching your children. Such integrity and strength. And when you said you will have two sad little girls when they go... oh, man. *heart sigh* I can picture it!LOL

    Praying God continues to bless and strengthen your sons faith in the Father that always provides!

  2. Congratulations to your son for being accepted to Moody! And what a wonderful lesson you are teaching your children.

    Throughout college, I worked and looked for scholarships and other sources of financial aid. God provided for me every step of the way with what I needed and has taught me that He is in control and will take care of me.

  3. Awesome, Shelly!!
    God's blessings go with him!

  4. Love this post! We are on the other end of this, on the waitlist still fundraising. Still hearing how are you going to give your other kids the things they want if you have more children. When they currently have too much, thanks to some of those same people asking!


    My oldest is a senior in high school this coming year. It's largely because of him that we have our daughter -- home from China 6.5 years ago!!! Our son had prayed that we would adopt a baby -- for six plus months and without telling us. God heard his prayer, because it wasn't anything we had ever considered.

    Ellie already tells him she doesn't want him to go away. Sweet, sad, special love!

    Can't wait to meet you in two weeks!!!